🧓 The Situation
You have explained something to an elderly Sister several times.
A few minutes later, she asks the same question again.
You explain it again.
Then again.
Eventually, you feel frustrated and say:
“Sister, I already told you!”
But what if she isn’t trying to frustrate you?
Memory changes, anxiety, hearing difficulties, or simply needing reassurance can sometimes cause an older person to repeat questions.
💙 WHAT CAN THE CAREGIVER DO?
Instead of reacting with frustration:
1. Pause.
Take a breath before responding.
2. Answer calmly.
Even if you’ve answered the question before.
3. Reassure her.
Sometimes the person needs reassurance more than information.
4. Use simple reminders.
A visible note, clock, calendar, or routine can help.
5. Look for the feeling behind the question.
Is she anxious? Confused? Looking for reassurance?
🌸 REMEMBER
You may be hearing the same question for the fifth time.
But she may be experiencing it as though she is asking it for the first time.
That doesn’t mean caregivers should ignore their own exhaustion. If repeated questions are becoming difficult to manage, share the concern with the appropriate health professional or another member of the care team, especially if there is a noticeable or sudden change.
❤️ CSECNG CARE TIP
Don’t make the person feel like a burden because their memory is changing.
Correct the situation when necessary—but protect their dignity while doing it.
💬 TODAY’S QUESTION
Caregivers, what do you find most challenging when supporting someone whose memory is changing?
Let’s learn from one another—without judgment. 🤝
🌟 Series Tagline
CARE WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF
Practical wisdom for those caring for elderly and infirm Sisters.
